They say \”cowards never forgive, it\’s in their nature\”. I am only half-coward. Of course to do the right thing is to abolish all my grudges, remove all my blocks, and start being friendly again.

But I feel uncomfortable with these people. They have hurt me, pained me. And here, I am supposed to change my perspective. They aren\’t really hurting me. They are just helping me. Is it worth it to just take that step? Especially if I don\’t really want to be \”friends\”, but just so that I have fewer enemies?

That has always bothered me about Dear Abby and Ann Landers, when they both were prominent writers. If there was strife between family members, the advice was to resolve it quickly. However, if it was among friends, then she would advise…perhaps you two have grown apart. maybe it\’s time that you seek other friends. Most people should realize that I equate family and friends at the same level. And that contradiction has always bothered me about…friendship.

Of course, it\’s always this line (the line that my first ex said justifying him never speaking to me again), I have other friends.

4 thoughts on “

  1. Forgiving doesn\’t mean you\’re supposed to change your perspective. Forgiving means to let bygones be bygones and start over. Except the second time around you know not to engage in certain discussions, activities, or whatnot with that person. You can forgive but that doesn\’t mean you can\’t learn from the past.

  2. one of my favorite quote was: \”those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.\”

  3. i agree with you. Friends should be as important as family. there\’s relationships involved and this kind of relationship shouldn\’t be taken for granted. Hanging out with other friends is just a way to escape from the problem rather than dealing with it, seeing friendships just something that comes and goes like the years instead of something of importance or values.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.