Debates. Arguments. Discussions? <\/p>\n
Several years ago, I would get into debates about the most trivial things. There was one argument I got into about whether a cordless phone should be placed on its base all day long. He said that phones should be placed elsewhere for battery purposes. I said that the base was not designed that way and should not be used that way. What a stupid argument that was.<\/p>\n
Sometimes it\\’s an intellectual challenge, but most times, it\\’s not. It\\’s dividing people, making them more extreme in beliefs than before. People take it personally.<\/p>\n
Those people with dignity, you know those charismatic and admirable ones, somehow avoid these topics together. In social situations, it\\’s easier to let someone who believes in a cause win. Because ultimately talking about a belief makes one feel important. Why steal the spotlight even if we know the belief is wrong? Just give a benefit of doubt, because in the end, a disagreement is not worth it when it ends in hurt feelings.<\/p>\n
I used to love conflict and drama, but it\\’s tiresome.<\/p>\n
I know someone who hates the Bay Area with a passion. I can see why, but I defended the benefits. But he continued to rant. I could never convince him otherwise, but I wasn\\’t there spending time with him to argue. Friendship was the reason I was there. Just let him have the spotlight. Let him win despite a personal disagreement. Let him get out it of his system.<\/i><\/p>\n
This comes from a philosophy that anger is misplaced energy. But when is it ok to debate in something you believe in? When it involves personal relationships?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Debates. Arguments. Discussions? Several years ago, I would get into debates about the most trivial things. There was one argument I got into about whether a cordless phone should be placed on its base all day long. He said that … Continue reading