Recently, on my facebook feed, I saw the broken heart icon appear between two friends..<\/p>\n
Oh no<\/i>, I thought. Not because the two had broken up, but because they had broadcast it to the entire world. As I stalked through their profiles, their photos had changed. Any mention of each other was completely erased. Awkward.<\/p>\n
Do you comment or do you not? Do you call them up to talk about their announcement? An unhappy announcement so different from my cousin inadvertently announcing his engagement when I saw a ton of wall posts congratulating him. I think my parents and grandparents were slighted that they were not told first.<\/p>\n
A friend recently (lightheartedly) admonished my distaste for relationship advertising online. He said simply he came from a different generation\u00e2\u20ac\u201daka 2-3 years younger than me\u00e2\u20ac\u201dand he doesn’t worry about such things. Yeah, so someone broke up…you talk to them through a wall post or a phone txt. Or if you see an ex got married because a mutual friend was tagged in photos and you knew the ex didn’t want you to see…well it’s the same as meeting that ex in person with a baby in tow and big rock on her finger\u00e2\u20ac\u201dyou grit your teeth and sound out a “congratulations”. And you can change your relationship status whenever you want to.<\/p>\n
Granted, this friend works at a company involving Facebook.<\/p>\n
In light of recent events<\/a>, I changed my privacy settings immediately so that certain parts are only viewable to certain people. Despite the fact that I am at ease with my online life\u00e2\u20ac\u201dafter having too much online drama in college, I am uncomfortable with relationships advertising online.<\/p>\n Back in the day, I used to write long entries on my blog\/journal about the crushes, the rejections, the moments of hallelujah!<\/i> I assumed everybody cared, but over time, I realized that most people didn’t care how anxious and high strung I was about the next steps. And then later, I figured that people often remember the worst but never remember the best. Thus for me, no labels and always the status “it’s complicated”.<\/p>\n For now, I’ll choose the people on an individual basis through non-broadcast mediums to spam them with my exploits and drama.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Recently, on my facebook feed, I saw the broken heart icon appear between two friends.. Oh no, I thought. Not because the two had broken up, but because they had broadcast it to the entire world. As I stalked through … Continue reading