{"id":5586,"date":"2016-12-21T23:12:32","date_gmt":"2016-12-22T07:12:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=5586"},"modified":"2016-12-21T23:12:32","modified_gmt":"2016-12-22T07:12:32","slug":"2016-moment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=5586","title":{"rendered":"2016: Moment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>Moment. Pick one moment during which you felt most alive this year. Describe it in vivid detail.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>In <a href=\"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=5278\">2015<\/a>, it was the moments after my hat was &#8220;stolen&#8221; in Rio. In <a href=\"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=4958\">2014<\/a>, it was a moment in a writing workshop that I had achieved greatness. In <a href=\"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=4549\">2013<\/a>, it was talking to Yasar Usta in Istanbul.  In <a href=\"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=4130\">2012<\/a>, it was using the ocean as a &#8220;big toilet&#8221; while floating outside Palawan.  In <a href=\"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=3793\">2011<\/i>, it was my birthday moment.  In <a href=\"http:\/\/of.jennism.com\/?p=3264\">2010<\/a>, it was the success in Journey to the End to the Night.<\/p>\n<p>There are moments that will stay with me this year.  The launch party for <a href=\"http:\/\/icecreamtravelguide.com\">Ice Cream Travel Guide<\/a>.  The getting up on stage, not once, but twice, at huge conferences.  The first day at a full-time job in four years.  Watching my sister get married and giving a speech.  And of course, the realization that the president wasn&#8217;t going to be who I thought it would be.<\/p>\n<p>But the moment?<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps it was in this moment:<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-captioned data-instgrm-version=\"7\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:658px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\">\n<div style=\"padding:8px;\">\n<div style=\" background:#F8F8F8; line-height:0; margin-top:40px; padding:50.0% 0; text-align:center; width:100%;\">\n<div style=\" background:url(data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACwAAAAsCAMAAAApWqozAAAABGdBTUEAALGPC\/xhBQAAAAFzUkdCAK7OHOkAAAAMUExURczMzPf399fX1+bm5mzY9AMAAADiSURBVDjLvZXbEsMgCES5\/P8\/t9FuRVCRmU73JWlzosgSIIZURCjo\/ad+EQJJB4Hv8BFt+IDpQoCx1wjOSBFhh2XssxEIYn3ulI\/6MNReE07UIWJEv8UEOWDS88LY97kqyTliJKKtuYBbruAyVh5wOHiXmpi5we58Ek028czwyuQdLKPG1Bkb4NnM+VeAnfHqn1k4+GPT6uGQcvu2h2OVuIf\/gWUFyy8OWEpdyZSa3aVCqpVoVvzZZ2VTnn2wU8qzVjDDetO90GSy9mVLqtgYSy231MxrY6I2gGqjrTY0L8fxCxfCBbhWrsYYAAAAAElFTkSuQmCC); display:block; height:44px; margin:0 auto -44px; position:relative; top:-22px; width:44px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\" margin:8px 0 0 0; padding:0 4px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BL4wrsSAnDw\/\" style=\" color:#000; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none; word-wrap:break-word;\" target=\"_blank\">Another #icecreamtravelguide event a success in Noe Valley!<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\">A photo posted by Jenn Ng (@jennism) on <time style=\" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;\" datetime=\"2016-10-23T01:24:27+00:00\">Oct 22, 2016 at 6:24pm PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async defer src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I realized how much I had perfected the story of ice cream, starting with that moment in Bangkok.  I know all the beats that I need to take.  I know how to push the emotion to ride high and then ride low.  Then twist the narrative to bring it back to the concrete.  What people don&#8217;t know is all the sweat and tears that went into telling that 6 minute story.  There are things that I cut out\u00e2\u20ac\u201dthe breakfast at the American hotel, the sliding along in flip flops.  The fact that a friend was actually with me the entire time.  There is also the mixed feelings I had that were actually more optimistic than the way I told the story.<\/p>\n<p>What I learned through studying writing is that the narrator doesn&#8217;t have to be the true self.  It can be somewhat fictionalized.  Even better if it&#8217;s exaggerated.  Who wants to hear about someone who isn&#8217;t quite there?  We want to hear about someone whose emotions are clear and vivid, instead of complex.  At least for the sake of this complex lovey-dovey melodramatic story.<\/p>\n<p>So at Umpqua bank, I sat on the stool reading the excerpts from my book to an audience of 10.  I realized how I had mastered so much more than that story.  I had also overcome my fear of public speaking.  I looked for the hints of how people were paying attention and adjusted accordingly.  I remembered what people said and addressed them directly.  Eye contact.  And in all of this, I held their rapture, at least I thought that I did.<\/p>\n<p>There were kids in the very back, enjoying the ice cream.  I do remember that.  But I kept going.<\/p>\n<p>And telling my story about that singular ice cream in Bangkok.  I don&#8217;t know the flavor.  Perhaps it was vanilla, mango, peach?  Whatever the case, it changed the direction of my life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Moment. Pick one moment during which you felt most alive this year. Describe it in vivid detail. 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