So many people talk about what they want to change about themselves. They point out what they dislike about themselves. They talk about who they want to be like. Most aren\’t satisfied with who they are and want to improve. Or at least, people on the pursuit for happiness are in search of self-improvement.
And yet, would people be satisfied with a sudden transformation? Wouldn\’t they still be looking toward the horizon, hoping for more?
I have always wondered about that in the makeover shows. They look great afterwards. Lost weight, better haircut, better fashion, but are they happier?
It\’s just a thought, because lately several people have been giving me advice on how I should change myself. Externally: Clothes. Appearance. Hair. Makeup. Internally: Characteristics. Personality weaknesses. Traits. Relationships with people.
Some of these come unexpected. Some are welcomed. Some are unwanted. Some come as criticisms. Some come as optimistic encouragement. Some bring about resentment. And that brings up a question, are we always so dissatisfied with the people we know? We think we know what will make them happier so we suggest things, ways to change. We only want to help them, right?
I don\’t think it\’s so much of a dissatisfaction with people we know. More so, I think the suggestions we make to others are a reflection of what would make ourselves happy (even if it\’s not what one would call \”true happiness\”). We want our friends to experience a same or similar happiness or satisfaction. The intentions are good and honest, I believe, but the assumptions are often erroneous.
the only improvement anyone needs to make is to increase their intelligence and read up on ethics.
then again there\’s always the part about using intelligence to do something productive. I guess that\’s where most of us are stuck at.
counterpoint: you never hear anyone say, \”wow, i love my life. it\’s perfect. i don\’t want to change a thing,\” because if it\’s as such, they wouldn\’t need to make a resolution to change themselves, yes?
and i unquestionably disagree with gicheru\’s suggestion (and supposition). but that\’s entirely unrelated.