As I was walking with a friend to dinner, I asked him how he and his girlfriend were doing—their long distance relationship with him here in the Bay Area and she in NYC at school. It was more than a year since the whole long distance started.
“It’s hard you know,” he said casually. “But I just can never find anybody else I like more than her and I don’t think I really could.”
And suddenly, it all made sense.
FEAR OF BEING ALONE!
I have a friend who broke up a relationship that hadn’t been working for quite a while. He told me:
“I used to ask myself: ‘What would I do without her?’, but what I really should have been asking was ‘Can I see myself with someone that would be better for me?'”
This guy sounds like he’s asking the right questions – I don’t think it’s fear of being alone. It’s a LDR – he’s already alone most of the time!
I wonder if there’s someone closer for me. But then I don’t want to …
B-Man says: “The word is revelation! Ain’t it?”