“Could you date someone who doesn’t use Facebook, txting, and all that kind of stuff?” I asked last Sunday during dinner with two girlfriends. “Could you be with someone who doesn’t communicate the same way you do?”

It’s self-centered, but I couldn’t be with someone who does not use email or cell phone.

Someone who does not use Facebook or Twitter…perhaps that’s ok. But at the same time, what’s the fine line? After so many years of being online, I am comfortable with sharing parts of my life online. I blog, I tweet, I play four square…all these things that broadcast so many things about me.

At some level, it’s a nice way to draw lines of privacy.

I knew someone who “hacked” around the Internets and found all my blogs, my social media accounts, my private journals, my non-private journals. It was as if he found my entire identity. To some level, that’s not what I want. But I want someone to be able to share…be interested in the activities I partake in.

What if there is someone who reads blogs…the kind that appeal to a wide audience like TMZ and follows tweeters like THE_REAL_SHAQ? But not mine, because like many people would say, “I would rather ask you in person.”

And there’s the rub. All this digital media is meant to be temporary…something that substitutes for the lack of real-person interaction. I do want to tell people of the great moment I had last week, the accident of yesterday, and share the photos of my dinner. But it’s because people are not there, people cannot be there, people’s schedules don’t match mine.

In the end, I’ll remember what I post in my blog and at the dinners that we have, I might just repeat what I just wrote 15 hours, 23 minutes, 10 seconds ago.