It’s a very rare thing to find me at the movie theater watching a chick flick—or better known as a rom-com. It’s always someone’s else decision—a girly friend, perhaps one of my few female friends. She says, Hey let’s hang out…let’s catch a movie.

And suddenly I find myself surrounded by not one, not two…but many many girls in a theater hoping that the two will finally get together. Meet cute! Just kiss her already! Make up and forgive!

There was a movie that I went to see in Pittsburgh—I don’t even remember the name, but I remember trying not to say anything afterwards, because I knew that she really really enjoyed it…and she wanted to have a girls’ night. And the other time which was all fine and dandy where I went to see Sex and the City (THE MOVIE) with my book club and fortunately we were civil enough to not discuss a single word afterwards.

And tonight, it was No Strings Attached. Looking back, I realized that the trailer really gave all the good parts away. It wasn’t the Meet Cute stuff that I was interested in any more. It was the moment after the “YES I WILL BE WITH YOU”. It’s the discovery of each other, the resolution of conflicts, the personal growth, change…that’s what I am interested in. Can that fit in a 2 hour movie and…is that a movie worth seeing?

In some way, now that I know how “meet cute” usually works…it’s repetitive. I want to know how other people work things out. How do they work out the moments where they disagree at the core? That’s what I am going to figure out.