A car I see now is a sign of power and authority.
It’s one of the few things in the world (especially in the city) that can give power and take away powerâ€”particularly when giving rides. A potential passenger is so dependent on the driverâ€”having little to no control at all. The driver determines arrival and departure.
Generosity is shown by offering a ride to somewhereâ€”whether it’s close or out of the way. But it can be easily taken away if suddenly a request is denied.
Here is generosity:
“No problem at all,” I say as I drive someone all the way back to the hills of Potrero.
Here is no generosity:
And as the negative feeling creeps in, I say, “No sorry, I don’t have room.”