Naturally due to my personality type (INFJ), I am obsessed with differing personalities. I am curious how people interact, the decisions they make when they interact, and how different styles work or don’t work.

When I learned about myers-briggs personality types, I first thought that it was bogus. But as I learned more, it revealed to me that there are very distinct types of people. At the very first glance, there’s the type of people who respond to my questions and thought exercises—”what if we never had that childhood incident, how would our lives be different?” or “why do we choose to be attracted to some, but not others?” Then there are those who respond to questions of the every day—”what is the fastest way to get from the Mission to the Marina?” or “how does one make gnocchi?”

To me, it’s these personalities. When I was lost at the age of 21, I sought a counselor. Really he was more of a student counselor and gave me the MBTI test. I sat in a room and took the 100 question test. The results returned that I was an INFJ, which interestingly is the rarest of all the types. The special unicorn and the dolphin. I have the combination of wanting to change the way in an idealistic positive way, a desire to connect with people, and a soul that is so sensitive to criticism that we all crumble in pain.

That’s wholly me.

Then there’s Chris who after multiple personality tests (that I of course forced upon him) is an ENTJ. What kind of personality type is that? It’s one that many presidents inhabit. From the negative POV, it’s the personality type that mows down people in order to establish efficient order, because that’s what the personality values. This personality comes off insensitive, authoritative, and unemotional. It gets a bad rap.

An INFJ and an ENTJ should not be attracted to each other. And yet, here we are. An unlikely pair.