And suddenly I want to hate you, but I don’t

There’s a funny thing that happens when you discover that someone you respected and admires has an opposing view to one of your firm core beliefs.

Maybe it’s political. Maybe it’s about society. Maybe it’s about same-sex marriage, maybe it’s about choice of lifestyle, maybe it’s taste of music (or lack thereof), maybe it’s perspectives on race…

Whatever the case, you suddenly feel this derision slide down your throat. It burns. It claws at you.

But you didn’t want this feeling. You didn’t want to suddenly lump this person into the group that you will…oh defiantly…oppose! You don’t want this person to be part of the crowd that you won’t stop to yell at! The crowd that you would throw rocks and stones if you could…the kind you would deface!!! Because they are wrong!! You will fight them to the death!!!!

No, you don’t. And you swallow. A deep breath. You will choose ignore this discovery and continue life as it was. But perhaps you will never know how that person feels about you and you settle back, thinking as you were.

2 thoughts on “And suddenly I want to hate you, but I don’t

  1. i think the beauty of friendship is in the fact that you can acknowledge and embrace differences, and not let them define how you relate to one another. it’s hard though, as there sure are some very polarizing topics out there. great post!

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