I come to the realization today that one of my friends constantly uses me. A few years ago, I gravitated toward him, because of his admirable introspection and his great style of writing.
At the beginning of the semester, he would ask me to hang out late at night (11 pm?) when I was usually working on something or ready to go to sleep. Or at home. He would whine and complain if I wasn\’t in Berkeley. Then end of our short online conversation.
But now, all I see is a hypocrite. I don\’t like it when someone asks me to do a \”favor\” when we haven\’t been \”friends\” lately. That is, when I don\’t talk to someone for a long time, I expect that person to never ask me for favors. So he has asked me for tech support help several times, without asking me how my life is like. There was once when I confronted him and his reasoning was that i don\’t have an interesting life. Yeah?? Neither do I.
Instead like those stereotyped stupid boy in a teen movie, he asked me how my sex life is like. A joke??? And being that we lost that effect of a friendship, it\’s obviously none of his business. What bothers me that most is today, he asked me for directions to a city near where I was at for the weekend. I gladly gave him directions and mentioned that I would be in the city later (it was supposed to imply hey, wanna hang out?) But none of that. Just a short thanks and bye.
Thanks, I think for taking advantage of me.