I ran across a trailer today for the movie Falling for Grace.
Simply put, it’s a movie about an Asian American woman, living in New York City, trying to get away from her cultural identity by becoming an investment banker and entering the high socialite world.
Will I see it? Sure, I am intrigued that it’s about Asian Americans, but the idea that Asian Americans are always struggling with their identity and trying to assimilate with the culture…turns me off.
What bothers me about the archetype of the Asian American in movies—specifically the movies with Asian Americans as leads…is that it becomes about rejecting culture, finding that culture is needed and accepting culture. It doesn’t ring true to me.
Although both of my parents are immigrants, I never really felt that Chinese culture was forced upon me (except the frugal mentality which is pretty common in all immigrant cultures). I was lucky as some say to grow up in a well-to-do neighborhood where luxury cars roamed free and crime was nearly nonexistent. The only Chinese people in my life were my relatives and my mom’s occasional nursing school friend. Other than that, I never experienced the games of mah jong (I was jealous when watching The Joy Luck Club). My parents rarely compared my sister and me to any other kids. Or that whole trying to be set up with a good Chinese boy and produce babies as soon as possible.
I just happened to be an American who had an Asian heritage.
Granted, I grew up in the Bay Area where being Asian was definitely not uncommon. My desire to live in Hong Kong only is because I want to live in a foreign country period.
But my name comes from my mom watching Romeo and Juliet. They knew someone named Julie and so chose another J-name.







