I look at the people who surround me and tell myself, this is normal.
If I don’t have what they have, I think that I am abnormal and naturally want what they have. That it’s normal to be married. That it’s normal to have children. That it’s normal to own a house and a car and a well-decorated house. That it’s normal to eat organic, local foods. That it’s normal to spend more than $50 to eat a meal and drink wine. That’s normal.
But then what happens if you are against the grain? How do you fight it if you make choices that are so vastly different? What if you already choose not to drink and you just never drink? Do you remind people that you don’t drink so that you don’t get weird looks of “are you pregnant”? Do you use your full words and not match the language around you?
What if you choose to be unmarried and childless? That it’s not that you don’t believe in marriage or parenthood, it’s that you don’t believe it for yourself.
But I know that I look out at the people who surround me and I think: that’s normal. I want to be normal.
All so that they will love and accept me.