When I was into penpalling, I used to \”spam\” approximately 5 people a day, looking for new friend requests. With the popularity of orkut rising, surely I can start those habits again?
But today is so much different than the time 10 years ago. We are more paranoid. We distrust most people. When we used to look through our mail slowly, appreciating every word said…today we quickly glance at the subjects and delete those that are spam-like. We get an e-mail, but we would rather spend 30 seconds reading it than taking our time to read and taste every single word. A sudden realization that a fellow person on orkut likes the same movie doesn\’t cause you to msg that person. It\’s so different now.
This argument against friendster was striking. Mostly, because it addressed clearly the issues I found with FOAF networks. Relationships are inherently undefinable. Peace remains, because we have the ability to be ambiguous about relationships. When I say you are a friend in one context, you may not realize that I don\’t call you a friend globally. Friendster and orkut forces us to define explicitly all the boundaries, certainly a weakness of the social networks. And for me, all these labels of friends change rapidly.
But the social networks are nonetheless interesting. Where else can we find the ability to find similarities. The kind of similarity of knowing the same person. The communities. And karma indicators?